Most people find changes to be challenging, even when the changes are good. We get comfortable in our old ways or circumstances, even when they are not what’s best for us, but we are afraid to step outside our comfort zone. Sometimes it just seems easier to keep doing what we’re doing, even if it is making us miserable.
The fear of the unknown is what makes us resist change. We know how to fight the enemies we’ve already encountered in one way or the other, and can’t be sure if we will face new giants in another direction that we can’t defeat. We are unsure of ourselves and whether we are up to the challenge of a new direction.
“The definition of a fool is someone who keeps doing what they’re doing and expecting different results.” (unknown origin)
I recently heard a Joyce Meyers CD where she made a similar analogy. If you want a new dress, you can not follow the pattern for a pair of pants and end up with a dress by following those directions.
In our Appalachian speak, “If you plant taters, you get taters. If you plant beans, you get beans. You can’t plant bean seeds and end up with taters.”
There are many people in this world who are not happy with how their life is going. They dream of bigger things. They want better things, yet they are afraid to make the changes that have to be made in order to achieve those things.
In my own life, I’ve learned a valuable lesson. I’ve been talking and dreaming of making a journey to Scotland for decades. I’ve watched documentaries about Scotland, watched movies and TV shows set in Scotland, read about it, and researched it on the Internet. At the end of last year I started feeling really ridiculous for still holding on to that dream because it seemed impossible. You may think I’m crazy, but I believe it was the Holy Spirit that spoke to my heart and said, “It’s time to quit talking about and dreaming about Scotland and start behaving as if you ARE going.”
My first step was to say that I am going. From there I found the tour group I want to go with, found an old friend from a writer’s workshop that also wanted to go, invited other people, and made my down payment for the tour. Things have continued on a forward direction since then. I believe I will be going to Scotland in the fall, but something inside of me had to change to make it happen. Maybe it is simply that this dream is one that God had planted in my heart for His purposes, and His timing has finally come for me to make this trip. Still, I had to embrace this change in attitude and behavior.
I’d like to challenge my readers to look at your own lives. What is the thing you would most like to see happen in your life? Are you willing to make the changes necessary to see it come to pass?
You can do it. Making up your mind to what you truly want, changing the things that you can change to make a difference in the outcome, and believing in yourself will help you get there. And of course, I believe that prayer, putting your goals in Gods hands, and believing that He will help you.
Change might be scary at times, but good changes for the right reasons make all the difference in the world.